There he lay on his death bed. He had a wonderful life of failure and triumph, sorrow and joy, as well as disappointment and blessings. As he reflected on his life, he began to have feelings of profound loss. Not because of regret or for the things that might have been, but because of having to leave behind those he loves.
He had said his difficult goodbyes to other members of the family. Only the youngest two members remained to be seen for the last time.
Saving them for last seemed apt: as one road comes to an end, another begins. It provided a reminder of just how far he had come from the innocence of childhood to the spiritual trials of adulthood, and finally to the enlightened end of a long life well lived.
As these thoughts washed through his mind, his two youngest grandchildren came into the room to visit. They were quite young—barely in grade school. They were too young to have a grasp of what it means to die. He struggled with how to tell them he was going to have to leave them.
“Come here you two. Get in the bed with me,” he said. “I was hoping you would come to see me today.”
The two of them, a boy and a girl, climbed up into the bed—one on each side—-and laid their heads on his chest. As they did this, a powerful wave of love welled up inside him and he had to force back the tears that strained to explode forth under the force of his emotions. He did not want to ruin these last moments with these two that he loved so much.
For a few minutes he could not speak. Then he said, “There is something I want the two of you to know. I love you both more than anything, but I must go away and I will not see you again for a long time. I don’t want to leave you, but sometimes we must do things that we would rather not do. I want you to know that when I am gone I continue to love you, just like you keep loving me when we are apart, right?”
In unison they said, “Yes grandpa.”
“Always remember the fun we had and how much I love you. While we are apart, you will be wrapped in a blanket of my love that will keep you warm and safe always. Does that sound good?”
“Yes grandpa,” they replied.
“But when will we see you again?” asked the little girl.
“I don’t know when you will see me, but I will always be with you because of the love that we have for each other.”
The little boy said, “I love you grandpa. I’m going to miss you.”
“Me too,” said the little girl.
“I can’t begin to tell you how much I am going to miss you guys. I will be watching over you from afar and I will always be with you in your hearts and minds, and you in mine.”
When the children left and the door closed behind them, he closed his eyes and drifted away. He left behind tears running down his check for the sorrow his departure will cause, and a bit of a smile on his face for finally getting it right.
This is a fictional dialogue. Although the story focuses on the little children, the sentiment expressed in the dialogue is meant to span all age groups.
Before anyone asks, I am perfectly healthy. I was compelled to write this article most likely because of a recent traffic accident where a woman ran a red light and took the front off of my car. Thankfully, I was not injured in the crash, but a few feet difference in the point of collision and I might not have had the opportunity to write this article. The incident reminded me that we can be taken at any time without warning, so we need to make sure that we take every opportunity to express our love to those we hold dear.